It is in our nature – at least it is from a Judeo-Christian perspective - to make this separation of what is I and not-I, what belongs and what does not, and like the babies we were in our cots, to hold close what is at that moment loveable and to throw out what is to be despised, destroyed, the hated objects to which we have ascribed such awesome power that we are fearful of their revenge.
This is the western idea of self, which we then want to put on a good face. For we have our ideas of morality and in particular in Christian mythology the idea of a loving God who gave his son to save us from ourselves. This Christian God wants to help us with our human nature, the management of ourselves in role as man, woman, child, adult, daughter, father, bricklayer, surgeon, citizen, whatever.
The emphasis is first on our individuality and hence on our interdependence with others. Love thy neighbour as thyself. Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth. The trouble is, there is little evidence on the ground to support these assertions.